Are you an angry husband? The Bible, as with most religions, speaks of the anger of a husband as being a natural and yet not an accepted emotion. Inemotions are normal, with the Bible encouraging the husband to manage their anger in a positive way. To try to look past the anger in order to better appreciate why they are feeling angry and accepting and understanding that the other person does not fully understand where they are coming from.
What does the Bible say about Angry Husbands?
In Ephesians, the Bible instructs husbands to not give their anger a voice. To not allow it to gain control over their thoughts, identity, and relationships. And to instead be mindful of their actions. To make sure that a husband is able to see that their words and actions are very powerful and that angrily lashing out or seeking to avenge oneself rarely has positive outcomes.
The Bible teaches that anger is a human emotion and not something that should be viewed as an enemy, but rather a part of us. A part that needs to be brought to God for wisdom and guidance. Encouraging husbands to bring their anger to God brings with it a sense of peace and assurance, knowing that God will provide us with the clarity that we need. Husbands need to be wary of the destructive behaviour that anger can bring and to remain focused on how best to use that anger in a positive way.
The Bible also talks about the need to bring your upsets and frustrations to other people too. To accept the differing opinions of people and to not become driven by one’s own anger. To let go of the anger and move on, by letting go of resentment and being more understanding of the differences that exist between people. It speaks to never using anger as a weapon against other people, but to allow for the anger to be released and expressed in a healthy and mature way.
The Bible always seems to put a major emphasis on the necessity of love and understanding in marriages. It does this by instructing husbands to not let anger guide or overpower their relationships. That they must strive to always be respectful and kind to their wives in all that they do and say. As well as to appreciate the other person and honour the bond that exists between them.
The Bible also encourages husbands to pray for patience and direction when their anger starts to get out of control. To make sure that the anger has an outlet that is not harmful to anyone else in the family or in the relationships. That they do not take their anger out on other people, but rather try to understand why the anger is there and seek out a peaceful resolution.
Going to God during times of anger also allows for husbands to receive help and guidance to best manage their emotions. To help them to better understand how their emotions can be harmful to their relationships without having to express their anger in ways that are hurtful to those around them. Or cause irreversible damage to the marriage itself.
When To Express Anger
When facing issues in marriage, it is important to make sure that anger is expressed in a safe and effective manner. With both parties understanding what the anger is all about, while also realising the limitations that the other person has in fully understanding one’s feelings. It is important to keep a level head and not allow your emotions to dictate the situation.
The Bible also encourages that husbands should make sure to express their feelings responsibly. To talk and find common ground without resorting to personal attacks, name calling, or threats. To use words and communication that bring about understanding, connection, and resolution. To take the opportunity to be heard and to have those words heard.
It is also important to remember that anger cannot be buried or ignored if it has to be made aware and acknowledged. The Bible speaks to marrying with the intention of understanding and not creating an environment of fear and mistrust. With a punishment-based relationship not being one which the Bible recommends.
When it comes to anger, it is important to express it in ways that are productive. Instead of using anger to get out of a situation, use it to clarify how one feels in order to make progress and bring about clarity for both parties. Get to the root of the feelings, calmly and respectfully.
When it comes to expressing anger, it is helpful to look into self-talk and to set boundaries. As well as to practice ways to stay grounded and to take a time-out if needed. To give oneself and their partner the chance to reflect on the issues and to come back to the conversation with a clearer head.
Learning With God
Learning to manage anger is a process that takes time and diligence. When faced with issues, it is important not to point the finger of blame on the other person or become frustrated with oneself. But to instead take that time to go to God and to learn more about how to handle the emotion. Praying for wisdom and direction is essential.
The Bible teaches that our relationship with God is a two-way street and that He will meet us in the middle. He will help those that are open to hearing and willing to learn what the true source of their anger is. To understand why we are feeling this way and to have the courage to be vulnerable and share those feelings. Allowing God to act and provide the answers He knows we need.
The Bible also speaks of a great love for us, a powerful love that seeks to open doors. It speaks of a God that desires to meet us, to answer our prayers and to be there to provide us with wisdom during times of stress and uncertainty. To show us the right way, and to provide us with the tools we need to help us to better handle our emotions and to not succumb to the temptation of anger.
It is vital to remember that while anger is a normal emotion, it should never be used as a way to threaten, blame, guilt-trip, or manipulate. We must remain aware of all of our actions and to be aware of how they might affect those around us. To strive for peace and understanding at all times.
Angry husbands need to always be aware that they don’t have to go it alone. That it is possible to reach to God and to find support from their partners. To talk through the issues and to take the steps needed to move towards reconciliation, should the need arise.
It is important that husbands take time for themselves, to get in touch with their emotions, and to think about the best way to approach an issue. To practice patience, empathy, and to forgive themselves and their significant other. Doing this enables angry husbands to remain understanding and stay in the present moment. To take stock of and assess the situation at hand, and to take the necessary steps to bring about a peaceful solution.
The Bible states that patience is a virtue. That is to not be afraid to ask for help from God or to consult with a professional. The idea is to be open to seeking out comfort and guidance in a positive and tranquil way and allowing the solutions to reveal themselves, while always being open to change.
Husbands can also delve into scripture to gain more insight into how to manage their anger and work towards a more amicable resolution. Taking the time to read and learn from scripture can be a powerful experience with the potential to reach depths of understanding that we never thought possible. To help us to reach a greater understanding of ourselves and to gain more control over our emotions.
Seeking Help From Others
The Bible speaks to always searching for the answers and to reach out to those in our lives that have our best interest at heart. To rely on our friends, family, and other advisors to help us to gain understanding and to suggest possible solutions. Reaching out to others allows us to gain acceptance and to have the support we need in our lives.
It also teaches us to reach out to those that are struggling and to encourage them. To listen to their challenges and to respond with love, empathy, and understanding. So that everybody can gain the freedom that comes with allowing oneself to become vulnerable. To be heard and respected.
The Bible speaks of community and connection. Of relying on friends and spiritual advisors to act as therapists. Friends that don’t just offer simple solutions, but rather listen and ponder the questions that one might have. To ask us questions in order to gain a greater understanding of the situation and to move us towards growth and appreciation.
The Bible wants us to take the time to seek understanding and to reach out to those that can bring about healing. To pause and reflect on our actions, and to take responsibility for our own growth. Seeking out the support we need for a more meaningful and harmonious life.
The bible speaks to always taking time to reflect and to be mindful of our actions. To look at who we really are and to grow and nourish ourselves in order to become better people. To use our emotions to our advantage, and to be aware of how our words and actions can affect those around us.
It speaks to looking at our lives from an objective point of view. To try to understand why we do the things we do and to ask questions that can bring about clarity in our lives. To gain a greater perspective on our strengths and weaknesses, and to use the knowledge to reshape how we interact with the world.
The Bible wants us to remember to always be kind to ourselves. To never punish ourselves for feeling the way we do nor to act reactively out of fear, guilt, or anger. And to instead accept that our emotions and feelings are what makes us who we are and an integral part of our existence.
It is important to take a look at the bigger picture, and to gain an understanding of how our beliefs shape our behaviour. To use our anger as a spark of creativity and to invent ways to bring about positive changes in our lives. To become an active part of our own solutions and to be proactive in seeking what we need.
A husband of one wife, father of two beautiful girls, laborer of Lord, Jesus Christ, and a servant to God’s His saints. I hope to encourage you by God’s grace. Thank you for stopping by.