Angry words can be hurtful, but what does the Bible have to say about it? Much like the Seven Deadly Sins aligned with Anger, the power of words can create or break a relationship at an instance. So we need to be mindful when expressing our anger in both words and actions.
What does the Bible say about Angry Words?
The Bible mentions that we should be slow to anger and slow to speak our outburst of frustration and hostility. Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” This means that our words have immense power and that we should be mindful of the tone when expressing out emotions.
God wants us to learn how to build up patience towards people, and not let our anger run away with us, as mentioned in James 1:19-20, which states: “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”
Letting our anger control us is not a strong suit admired by God. We should learn to be compassionate instead and fill ourselves with love and grace. Romans 12:19 says, “Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord.” Instead, the Bible encourages us to build relationships with empathy and understanding.
The Bible reminds us that we need to stay alert with our emotions, and to not engage in actions or words that may hurt others. Matthew 5:21-22 reads “‘You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘You shall not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.” This verse reminds us that we are accountable for our words, as they may impact others in damaging ways.
The Bible encourages us to think before speaking, and remain mindful of our words and actions throughout all circumstances. Proverbs 16:24 says, “Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” Instead of expressing our anger with negative words, we should speak with gentleness and kindness.
It is wise to remember that God does not condone or turn a blind eye to any negative dialogue. The Bible speaks to us with guidance and wisdom when dealing with anger – something which we should adhere to.
Angry Words and God
It is essential to stay true to ourselves and remember that God sees all. Our words and actions that stem from anger are never a true representation of who we are; it only creates uneasiness in our relationship with God. Proverbs 17:14 says, “Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.”
We should avoid arguments at all cost to maintain our relationship with both God and people to stay within the holiest realm. Even expressing anger and frustration towards God can have an outer unforeseen ripple. Job 42:2 says: “I know that you can do all things; no purpose of yours can be thwarted.” Meaning, it is a lesson to never judge God’s intentions.
Having angry words is not a sin, it is part of being human, but if those words come from a place of frustration, instead learn to fill in those feelings with acceptance and grace. Surround ourselves with love and understanding and focus on the good, as it will bring us more peace.
God understands what it means to express anger, as He is human and creates with purpose and will. Psalm 74:1 reads: “O God, why have you rejected us forever? Why does your anger smolder against the sheep of your pasture?” It is okay to express our emotions with God, but with patience and understanding, we can learn how to control our inner emotions.
God gave us free will to think and act, but even angrier words should not be spoken without purpose. Matthew 12:16 says, “The words you speak come from the heart—that’s what defiles you.” We have great power in our words, so use them in a way that will honor God.
Eliminate Unnecessary Angry Words
Staying angry all the time can bring us and other people down. We may be upset due to a situation out of our control, but if we want to make a positive change, we need to focus on the good things we can do for ourselves, and others.
Instead of choosing angry words to express our feelings, it is best to take a step back and assess how we can approach a situation in a positive light. Matthew 10:12 reads “As you go, proclaim this message: ‘The kingdom of heaven has come near.’”
This means we should take the time to assess the situation, and instead of running with our angry emotions, decide what is best for the relationship in question. Colossians 4:6 tells us that we should “ Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”
Rather than express our anger with volatile words, we can opt for a calming effect, which will bring a sense of peace to the situation. Staying in control of our emotions and seeking grace in times of frustration can be hard, but with practice, it can become easier. Holy Spirit within us, can help us to make a conscious effort to choose calmer words when dealing with difficult circumstances.
The Bible speaks of harsh words and anger with caution – guiding us with words that will build good relationships with God and others, and create a protective boundary for ourselves.
Taming Angry Words
There may be situations where we express our anger in ways that push away those who are important to us. Philippians 4:5 encourages us to “let your gentleness be evident to all.” We should not let our anger be the defining mask that hides our true identity and emotions.
Realizing the difference between emotion and behavior is key to taming our angry words. Our actions should reflect our core beliefs, and not be taken out in anger. James 4:17 is a powerful reminder, “Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it.”
We should learn to forgive ourselves and others,and take mindful actions instead of reactive behavior. Philemon 1:15-16 states “Perhaps the reason he was separated from you for a little while was that you might have him back forever— no longer as a slave, but better than a slave, as a dear brother.” We all make mistakes, and that is okay.
We should think and breathe before speaking out of anger that may burn bridges that would have otherwise been mended. Instead pick your words wisely, and be mindful of our tone and attitude. And as the Bible tells us, fill ourselves with love and grace to spread positive energy even in instances of frustration.
Grace Before Angry Words
Before spouting off any angry words, we should ask ourselves, does this action brings more harm than good? We need to use our logic and stay within the boundaries of the Bible before speaking our mind.
The Bible encourages us to resist speaking out of anger that will cause ill feelings. We all know when our angry emotions are rising and we should learn to breathe, and not lash our hurt and pain onto hurt others. Romans 12:21 simply says, “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”
Grace should be the first step before leading with angry words, as it holds the purest form of empathy and understanding. Grace gives us the power to stand with our beliefs, and leave a positive aura even in dire situations. 2 Corinthians 12:12 reads, “The signs of a true apostle were performed among you with utmost patience, with signs and wonders and mighty works.” We can also show patience to speak with grace and love.
No matter how much our emotions and thoughts are getting the best of us, we need to pause and reflect on our words before we speak them. As Colossians 4:6 states: “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”
Reduce The Violent Words We Speak
Expressing our emotions with anger and frustration is a natural thing to do, but it is not always the best option. We should learn to take a moment, pause, and assess the situation honestly without any hostility.
The Bible encourages us to search within, and remove anything that may trigger angry outbursts. Philippians 4:8 says: “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
This verse reminds us that we can choose what we allow in our minds, and to filter positive thoughts even when we are faced with a difficult situation. We need to make sure that no matter how angry we may get, that we choose kind words that will bring peace and understanding for both ourselves and others.
The Bible teaches us to be mindful with our words and actions, and ultimately help us stay true to ourselves grounding our thoughts in prayer and reflection. Through Jesus’ teachings and the power of the Holy Spirit, we can control our angrier impulses and choose words that will move our relationships forward.
A husband of one wife, father of two beautiful girls, laborer of Lord, Jesus Christ, and a servant to God’s His saints. I hope to encourage you by God’s grace. Thank you for stopping by.