What God Wants From You When Your Spouse Is Wounding Your Marriage?
No marriage is perfect; it takes hard work and dedication from both spouses. When one of the spouses is wounding the marriage, it can be heartbreaking. But all is not lost; here is what God wants from you when your spouse is damaging your marriage.
It’s important to remember that God is in control and that He will bring healing if you allow Him to work in your marriage. God does not want endless suffering and sacrifice. He wants you to reach out for help, seek guidance, and begin to make strides in the right direction.
God does not want you to blindly trust your spouse. He wants you to be wise and discerning. He will help you to recognize patterns of behavior that are unhealthy and not conducive for a healthy marriage.
God wants you to keep your focus on Him and to be mindful of the way you’re treating your spouse, even if they are wounding your marriage. He will use this difficult situation to further your relationship with Him and to strengthen your faith.
God wants you to recognize when you need to forgive and to be forgiving. The wounds caused by a spouse can be deep and forgiveness can be difficult, but God wants you to strive daily to forgive and allow Him to do the healing.
God wants you to remember that He is the restorer and the healer. We all make mistakes, but through forgiveness and repentance, God can do a mighty work. He will help you to rebuild your relationship and bring beauty to the ashes.
God wants you to be patient and to trust in Him and His promises. He knows the path He’s calling you to take and He wants you to be faithful as He works all things for your good and for His glory.
Maintaining Faith, Hope & Love
God wants you to have faith, hope and love in spite of the pain your spouse is causing. He knows it’s hard but He desires that you maintain a spirit of faith in all circumstances. Even if your spouse isn’t faithful to you, you can be faithful to God and trust Him to restore your marriage over time.
God also wants you to stay hopeful. He will bring restoration, strength and healing if you are willing to trust in Him. He desires that you don’t give in to despair and discouragement. He wants you to keep believing and to have faith despite the circumstances.
Finally, God wants you to love your spouse, even when you feel hurt and rejected. It may be hard to fathom but He desires that you strive to show unconditional love. Through your patience, kindness and mercy, God will work miracles in your marriage.
Recognizing & Changing Unwholesome Behaviour
God wants you to be aware of your own behaviour and to make the necessary changes to become a better wife or husband. When you focus on doing the right things, God will work to make a way where there doesn’t seem to be one. He will help you to be a better spouse, and a better partner.
God wants you to be resolute in your decisions and to stick by them; even in the face of great opposition. He also wants you to be humble and ask for help where needed. God’s grace and favour will be available to you – don’t hesitate to ask for it.
God wants you to be respectful, even if your spouse is not. He desires that you acknowledge both their good qualities and bad qualities. Demonstrate respect for your spouse and God will use that as a testimony to restore what has been lost in your marriage.
God wants you to remember that you can’t change your spouse, only yourself. So take time out to pray and focus on changing your own behaviour and attitude. Don’t make excuses for bad behaviour; instead, strive to emulate God’s love and grace.
God wants you to guard your heart and recognise when something isn’t right. He wants to have a personal relationship with you and He will help you to discern when it’s time to take a step back, and when it’s time to get back in the game.
Exercising Self Care
God wants you to take care of yourself in every way. He wants you to get enough rest, eat nutritious food, and ensure that you’re not overworking yourself. Sometimes, it can be hard to look after yourself when you’re married, but God knows that self-care is vital and He wants you to make it a priority.
God also wants you to love yourself the way He loves you. He desires that you treat yourself with grace, kindness, and mercy. Instead of feeling like a victim, God wants you to stand up for yourself and to believe in your worth and dignity.
God wants you to make time for activities and pursuits that you enjoy. Pursue hobbies and activities that make you feel good. Take up a new sport, explore art galleries, or take a class – treat yourself to something that will make your heart sing.
God wants you to surround yourself with positive people who are committed to growth and transformation. Find people who will support you, love you, and spur you onto the things that God has promised and destined for you.
Finally, God wants you to know your worth and set boundaries. Know your limits and don’t be afraid to set boundaries when needed. Love yourself enough to know when it’s time to step away and when it’s time to come back home.
Learning Godly Ways of Interacting
God wants you to interact with your spouse in a healthy way and to practise grace at all times. He wants you to talk about issues in a way that honours Him and respects the relationship. Don’t let the wounds of your spouse control the way you communicate and interact.
God wants you to be peacemakers and to use gentle, kind words. He desires that you learn how to listen as well as talk every time you communicate. Listen to understand and strive to be understanding and compassionate with your spouse.
God wants you to remember that a gentle answer turns away anger and that a harsh word stirs up wrath. Even if your spouse has wronged you, speak slow and be mindful of the way your words are received. Speak gently and God will use your words to restore the relationship.
God also wants you to be patient with your spouse, as you both seek to discern God’s will. Don’t be easily provoked and don’t react in a way that would make matters worse. Exercise patience and kindness, and God will help you to come up with a godly way to move forward.
Finally, God wants you to practice forgiveness and to be forgiving of your spouse. Even if you don’t see any signs of repentance or healing, God wants you to forgive and move on. When you practice forgiveness, God will release His grace and healing into your marriage.
Trusting and Obeying God
God wants you to trust in Him and His promises no matter what. He desires that you keep your heart and mind focused on Him and the promises He has made. Trusting in God will help you to find the strength and courage to keep fighting for your marriage.
God also wants you to obey Him and to honour Him with your life. He doesn’t want your marriage to become a battleground. Follow His ways and commands and be obedient to His Word and He will work wonders in your marriage.
God wants you to remember that He will never fail you and that He will always be there for you. Lean on Him and talk to Him. He will listen to your problems and give you guidance and direction.
God wants you to go beyond obedience and do what He says. Follow His leading and believe in His faithfulness. Don’t be afraid – have faith in the promises He has made and keep your eyes set on Him.
God also wants you to remember that He is the author and the finisher of your faith. He is in control and He will write your story if you let Him. You don’t have to worry or be anxious; God is with you and He desires to bring healing and restoration to your marriage.
A husband of one wife, father of two beautiful girls, laborer of Lord, Jesus Christ, and a servant to God’s His saints. I hope to encourage you by God’s grace. Thank you for stopping by.